Does it Really Matter?

At what cost will your answer be no?

A post by Dan Mott got my attention earlier, and I am glad when
I see people use their platforms for such messages. I think the question is mostly underrated by most of us or misapplied. Yet it remains crucial, among the most helpful, and a reliable tool to master.

In an attempt to be fair to the matter, the spectrum where the question “does it matter” sits in, is insanely vast. It differs from one person to another, and no two situations are the same. The components are different, and players are different, and sometimes the whole game is different. For purpose of my post here, it is very specific to family, my family. I am married with 2 daughters. It took me over 10 years before I knew how to ask the question “Does it really matter”, and be able to apply it where it is valued the most.

I can’t help you figure out the answer to “Does it really matter”, but I can remind you to ask yourself that at every corner. I can help you untangle the question, clear the clutter around it, and really ask it. It is uncertain if your answer will be the right answer on every try, but moving forward and knowing you didn’t ask yourself that, I think is a lot riskier.

Mine took 2 years to answer. It cost me a job,
a mission, a team, and an income. The gain, well, I took at my wife’s health and career, my daughters’ health and laughs (and the non-stop nagging and increase estrogen balance in the house) I’m still counting my blessings.

My question to myself was: If I win if I make it to that milestone, will
it really matter the next morning? At this cost?

I wrote my resignation in September 2019…Submitted in early 2021.

This extends all the way to work, teams, leaders, team culture & development. A leadership that can demonstrate such commitment to what really matters, is a leadership that can turn a work-colleagues into a family.

Photo credit: Paul Kessel — Q Train